Wednesday, April 10, 2013

MY CAREER JOURNEY - #6 MY LIFE CHANGED FOR THE BETTER IN D.C!


Going into my second year of work with the Capitals, I felt totally adjusted to my environment but was missing that special someone or some furry little creature to share my world together. I started off by buying a puppy. I found one for sale from a dog owner that was leaving the area on a military job transfer and he offered me his Black Cocker Spaniel by the name of BOGY CHARLES for $50 dollars. I happily bought this puppy and drove Bogy back home. We quickly became an inseparable pair. He was spoiled terribly with four walks a day and loved all of the new attention that he was getting. I could tell that he was left alone for most of his young life until we were united in 1981.

I mentioned in my last piece how honored I was to be able to work on the NHL All-Star Game project that our Capitals’ organization put together in 1982. Going back seven months prior, the most significant piece of mail in my lifetime had arrived at the Capital Centre. It was on an off day Saturday. I decided to drive over to the arena on the date of August 6, 1981 to catch up on some game-day work and also help sort out the thousands of pieces of mail that would be piled up inside our office mailroom.  What made me go back there on this particular day? I’ve never done it before in the first year-and-a-half that I had been working for the Caps. FATE? Yes, I believe in that four letter word all the way!

When I was done sorting out the mail, I took all of the letters addressed to Roger Crozier and to the PR Department and went back to my desk. Slicing open the letters, I came across one from a young lady name Wendy Sampson in Minneapolis, MN. She was seeking advice on how to get into sports journalism. I answered her letter and offered up feedback. It was a handwritten note on team stationary. 

Wendy was 21 and a senior in college. She quickly responded to my note and offered up “thanks” for being the only NHL team out 21 clubs to correspond with her. I then wrote Wendy back and acknowledged her one more time and asked if she would stay in touch. In between our next communication, Wendy apparently told her Mother that she had the vibes that somewhere in her future we could be meeting and possibly be married? Another month had flown by and during this time I was told by my landlord  to prepare to vacate my condo because they were going to sell the property and paint the inside walls.

This one day I arrived home from work, a crew of painters had invaded my condo and were sprucing up the walls. Bogy’s fur had splotches of white paint all over. So he and I went outside for a walk.  We had a swimming pool nearby to my home that was exclusive for all condo occupants and it had a pay phone open for people to use (back in those days we had no cell phone, computers, etc.) I called the phone operator and asked for Wendy’s home number (since I had her street address and city). Once the operator connected me, I phoned Wendy. It was our first live chat. She was somewhat surprised but I could tell, so happy to hear from me! We talked for a very long period of time and it was a conversation that made me think she was the ONE!  When we hung up from one another, I quickly called my Mom and told her about Wendy and I wanted her to know then that there is a strong possibility we could get married someday!! My Mom didn’t know what to say to me other than “Jim, you don’t even know her, why would you say that?” I said: “Mom, my whole life has been walking through the back door. I just have this feeling in me that Wendy is the ‘One’ and I wanted to tell you this now so you’re not shocked when it does happen!”

From that day forward, Wendy and I both exchanged handwritten letters or Hallmark greeting cards pretty much every single day until we were to finally meet in person in February, 1982. As we got to know more about one another, there was no doubt in my heart and mind that Wendy was that special someone I was destined to meet and for us to spend our lives together!

Once we got to January, 1982 and within a month of our meeting for the first time, I suggested to Wendy by phone that we should go outside on a particular night, look up into the stars and make a “Wish” at the exact same time. We would then open each other’s wishes when we met.  As we neared our meeting date, I finally told my office colleagues and Capitals’ hockey players that I was going to ask Wendy to be my wife!  It was grief central from the staff members! However, many of the players – especially the French Canadian guys - became my personal “relationship advisors” and encouraged me to follow my heart all the way!! I remember the chats I had with my favorite Capitals’ player Gaetan Duchesne. He was just 19 at that time and had this very soft voice. The ladies in the office adored him! He would always come by my desk to get updates on Wendy. When he did, he’d look up at the ladies nearby to me with this wide grin on his face and say out loud in his heavy French accent: “Zih-Meeeee, don’t you listen to dose ladies. Joo follow jore heart!”

I called Wendy’s Mom in late January, 1982 to get her daughter’s ring size (which stunned her I am sure). I remember the quietness on the other end of the phone line and then these words were stated … “Oh My God, You’re Not Kidding!” I went out on my own and purchased Wendy’s engagement ring without ever having met her! Despite some people telling me how crazy I was, I knew every little detail about Wendy. We had the same beliefs from top-to-bottom! I knew in my heart that I didn’t need to go through a series of dates to confirm my feelings! 

I told Wendy that my Caps’ owner was giving me a week off of work following the February 9th NHL All-Star Game so that is when we had scheduled our first meeting. I  picked up Wendy at the D.C. National Airport on Feb. 13, 1982. It was nervous feelings for both of us I know, especially for that first moment we came together. But after the long embrace, hug and a kiss, I knew once more that SHE WAS IT! There never was a doubt!

We spent the next few hours touring Virginia and areas of D.C. before heading to my new apartment in Upper Marlboro, MD. We were exhausted and emotionally drained from the months of anticipation. When she unpacked her suitcase, Wendy took out my wish and I did the same for hers. I took them both and placed the wishes underneath my living room couch where I had an alarm clock all set to ring at 12 Midnight the turn of Valentine’s Day morning! We both fell asleep in each others arms on the couch and yes, the alarm clock did its job and woke us both up.

I rose first and got down on one knee. I quickly asked Wendy to open up my “Wish!”  It simply read: WILL YOU MARRY ME?  Before she responded, Wendy then asked me to open up her “Wish!”  It also read the same four words: WILL YOU MARRY ME!!  That is how we proposed to each other! Before her arrival, I had recorded Wendy’s favorite music on a special cassette and played this right afterwards to fill the air. Yes, we had our first dance. We then called both of our Moms and shared the news of our plans to be married!

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